Advise needed...

Its all about when u have a maid... U need to close more than 1 eye!...

My maid is the main caregiver for Charlotte... during the day time... She will be with Charlotte at my mum place. All she does is really look after Charlotte... that means most of the time she is damm eng.... I have no issue of her sit down there doing nothing when Charlotte is sleeping... but lately I am quite irritated by some of her behavior... she tend to start to take things in her own hand... and behaving really "queen"... she lie on the bed and play with Charlotte... I caught glance of her feeding/ playing her spoon with Charlotte... I cant really confirm if she has let Charlotte "taste" her spoon... When Charlotte is sleeping... she simple laze there to watch TV... I mean laze as in half seated and half lying comfortably....

Initially I really try hard to focus on the fact that as long as she take good care of Charlotte, the rest perhaps I should really close my eyes.... Having her around is good as she also act as a companion for my mum at home... The con of having a maid is that Charlotte get to be fed on time and enjoy home made fruits and it does really help esp during this time that she is starting her solid...

The bad point is, I have to endure my maid behavior... I dare not really tell her off cos worried she take it on the child... every time I talk to her is like physco her... even have to explain the reason why... and she like to ask "why" "what".... I m not so worried about the fact that Charlotte gets really close to her... I m more worried about what Charlotte will learn from her! All day long, all she does is make funny noise with Charlotte and carry her to watch TV...

Esp now that Charlotte start to be more alert I wonder how I shall deal with this... I have thoughts of sending Charlotte to half day infant care so that she still get to eat home cook stuff... I m not really into Charlotte learning anything in the care center... more of ensure that she has less contact time with the maid to pick up some funny stuff... But I m not sure if this is a good option....

I talk to friends who has maid also tell me to bear with it... I think I am being very generous towards my maid liao... I din really want to stop the maid as I think she does really can help us with housework and taking care of Charlotte. Confuse lei... maybe its a transition period...

Maybe anyone here who has maid at home to take care of kids and baby can share with you your experience?

Charlotte's update

It has been a while since I last updated on Charlotte's milestone... She is turning 6 month soon and going for her final injection (the 6 on 1) this sat... we are trying not to remind her in case she give the grumpy face...hahhaha


She is able to flip and turn on her tummy now... which make her quite mobile on the play mat... At my mum place, my maid would place her inside the jumperoo to make sure she dun "go" anywhere outside the mat! Hahha... At my place, we would some times belt her up on the swing or the high chair.

Charlotte also tried a number of new food... of which she is quite "sensitive" to sweet potato and prune... which make her a bit "lao sai" ...hahhaha her favorite is apple! She also tried some baby biscuit but she took quite a big bite and we decided to feed her instead of her holding it... scare she choke.

This is the 1st year, Charlotte is experiencing CNY... being the only baby around.... all the aunties and uncle is so amuse by her... and wanna carry her... she is quite well behaved in the day time... but bed time is terrible... I guess over exhausted as well... a bit like "hum being"... sometimes she cry so loud that we have to wake her up...hahha...

She knows how to hold the ang bao and send the ang bao to her mouth! hahhaha... She wear all the pretty clothes during cny and her hair has grown quite a bit... intend to cut them to equal length after cny season...



I also made passport for Charlotte so that we can bring her for a short trip to Malaysia soon... have been trying to take her photo and she can be quite cheeky...


Her hair are all standing, very difficult to use Photoshop to edit... so I use water to make her hair "flat" (the top right hand Pict) then she play and play and wriggle until her hair are all damm messy!

Lately Charlotte learn to "complain" and make "pathetic" look and sound... the video show all... she is complaining...hahhahaha

Bump Bump rolling off the bed

As the title suggest.... Charlotte fell off the bed....ouch!  Yes... she is like just 5 month old and she experienced her 1st fall... It was an eventful Friday, she already woke up and I placed her in the middle of our queen size bed... I only do that sometimes when she sleep with us... cos lately she is trying to flip and always end up screaming for help in the middle of the night... in order to "secured" her to a position. I some time placed her in between us to "stationed" her in the night.

That morning I left her on the bed and went to the kitchen to put away the milk bottle... just a while... I heard a "bong" and loud shriek cry... I knew that's it! I hope my guess is wrong... when I ran to the room, Nick ran out to ask what happen! He din realized Charlotte has fell off the bed!... I immediately on the light and Nick pick up Charlotte. I comforted her and Nick wanted to check her injury... but my 1st concern is to calm her down...

After she calm down, I saw her mouth oozing with blood... her inner upper lid is bleeding... she fell face down which is a blessing in disguise... cos it can get really serious if its head up... I quickly wash up while my maid clean up the teary Charlotte... Nick say he clear up a small puddle of blood from the spot where Charlotte fell. *sweat...

After cleaning up, I see that there are still blood coming out from her mouth... we feel that its better to go KKH incase we din realize something more serious. Both of us took the day off. The A&E did a check on Charlotte. She even smile to the doc in green (must be reminding her of Sotong, cos her favourite Sotong is in green too). The doc wanted to ward her as none of us see what really happen. I din want to... so Nick sign the form and the doc advise the sign to look out for. The rest of the day, Charlotte appear OK but very grumpy... obviously not happy.

Saturday she seems ok... but cry out loud when sherry reminded her of the fall... hahaha... I reminded WS not to mention the fall in front of her. Ws just play with her and she allow Ws to carry her... hahaha... Following Charlotte's fall and also some of the stuffs happening around lately, I wasn't really in the mood for any birthday celebration. Nick arranged a gathering for the fluffy gals to come to our place and Nick whipped up a chilli crab dish... and my favourite strawberry shortcake from WC... though I have told Nick before that I din want any birthday cake or celebration. The strawberry shortcake never fail to put a smile on my face. :P

By Sunday, her wound has healed, but she is still quite affected by the fall... she would cry in the middle of her sleep and we have to wake her up... She will also fidget in her sleep and very "mang zhang"... I have given her some Chinese "jing feng san" and hopefully she walk out of the bad feeling soon... if not mummy will become a panda for CNY....

Monday I am back to office to work... dun ask me why... *sigh.... but I am surprise with a gift from my ex colleague. They are really sweet to remember my birthday and send bird nest and flower to my office... Yes... I really need to nourish nourish for the cny and replenish my lost of youth over the sleepless nites...ahhaha...

Post renovation problems

In renovation, sometimes also see "heng" "suay" one... I engage a carpentry coy as recommended by forum-er here who has their house done up... I can say their quote is quite competitive that is also why I go to this company... A lot of things I also "close both eyes"... initially handed the dish rack I bought for them to incorporated into the kitchen... but turn out my dish rack cannot fit cos no space was cater for it... (design fault) but I din blame them cos I saw the final drawing and I agree... which mean I din realize the dish rack is missing from the design...neither did them rem that i have a dish rack that they need to cater space for... I just bought a standing rack to solve this issue...

Lately the doors of the cabinet start to curve...YES... bend and curve... I request they change because I only use barely 3 months! They came and give me the reasons that its their supplier problem which gave them a "different" quality of wood... they cannot control what their supplier gave them... SO they are expecting me to live with this? Then they say they cannot change the door, they can only bring back the door to do a manual pressed and hope that it will be straighten and flat...I questioned what happen if the door bend again... again they tried to push the blame to the supplier of the materials... I gave up... ask them to bring the door back...they took like a few weeks and my doors are back...

Now! The door bend again! I ask them for solution... they say they can only install a door catch to make the door "stick" in... again blame it on the supplier of the door... and ask me what I suggest...

If you are me, what would u do?

I send her a sms which she din reply: " I m a end consumer, I bought the thing from u, so it only possible of me to come back to u when the thing got problem, cant expect me to find your supplier right. I am not trying to be difficult, you are also a consumer yourself. If you spend 4k plus on a kitchen which doors start bending even less than 3 months of usage, how would you react? If you can just accept it as it is... Please tell me so."

I believe they will do nothing to this case... they will just sit on it... or expect me to "forget" about it... or best still ask her husband to come and argue with me that its their supplier fault... frankly speaking there is nothing I can do also... I can only say SUAY loh... find a carpenter who is small scale... and poor after sales service.

One word of advice... if you can afford to live with this kind of non-sense then go to a small scale company...

She just call me and say they have done before this size and it din bend like mine... they have no solution also... They suggest to use aluminum frame kind which will solve the problem but I dun like the metal framing as it will make my kitchen really small. They ask if they change the door for me and what happen if it bend again? They cant possible change again... I also understand...

So I can only say, if change liao still bend... the only reason I can think of is... I am really suay! or my kitchen is meant to be door less?
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Hai... i am sick and tired of this loh... they say will change for me this round... but if it bend then there is really nothing they can do... they can only do it after CNY... I am ok with it... cos I am really tired of this...

well... i can only say... 1st time is maybe really the material got problem or design got problem (which I cannot control or dun know how to control)... if change liao still bend.... I can only say really DAMM SUAY....  I really need better luck!