This neighbor of mine is super lazy to the max… she is about mid to late 30s and this is her first born… its normal to not knowing everything about taking care of baby but its not okay not to learn! She will usually bring her son over to my parents’ place to play with Charlotte… but the so call playing session is revolved into taking advantage of my maid.
On and off she will ask my maid to “teach” her something, like cutting of finger nail, cleaning of the ear… for the baby… but the so call “teach” always end up to be asking my maid do for her… she started off by asking my maid to cut her baby’s fingernail as she tried cutting and cut the boy’s finger… then in order to return the “favor” she wanted to bring my maid out for coffee… I say “NO”… giving the reason that I dun allow my maid and baby to go out alone… she say “why not”… “they stay at home also boring mar” I tell her my maid every weekend follow us go out to shopping where got boring?... then back home I still must tell my maid loads of excuse why I dun allow them to go out with the neighbor… I told my maid that if anything happen to Charlotte while they are out there who wants to bear the responsibility?
Then the neighbor next pattern is to come over and ask my maid to help her “look after” her son for a while as she do some of the stuff like “dressing up for dinner”… as my maid is the sole care giver of Charlotte, she will have to bring charlotte along… Then I told my maid… I dun want Charlotte to have the habit of going out of the house often… else she will have a hard time… because back at our place on weekends we always go out of the house and this has become a habit for Charlotte… whenever we stayed at home the whole day during weekends, she will always point to the door and wants to wear her shoe to go out. She never does that at my parents’ place as it was not practice.
After this incident, my maid stop going to the neighbor place…. Then now become the neighbor always come over….. I am ok with it … but I know she always talk to my maid... I din really ask what they talk but lately my maid start to complain…
When the neighbor son turn about 4 month old, I gave her some brown rice powder to try and she is too lazy to spoon feed the son, she say the son does not like it so she mixed into milk for him. Now the son turn 6 mths old, she wanted to let him try porridge. She say she dun know how to cook, wanted my maid to GO OVER HER HOUSE to “show” her… She ask me once face to face if its ok for my maid to go over. I say “cooking porridge” for baby is very easy… I even tell her step by step how to cook using the slow cooker… she say she dun know how much water… I give up, I say why not u cook normal kind like we adult eat kind and blend it using a blender then u can control the consistency of the porridge.
The final straw came this week. On Monday evening when I reached home, my maid say the neighbor come over during Charlotte nap time and ask her why her son’s ear got black black and requested my maid to clean for the son. Being the kaypo kid, Charlotte woke up from her nap with all the commotion and refuse to sleep… result? Cranky all the way! I think my maid got pissed off because she has to clean the boy ear and manage the cranky charlotte… leaving her no time to eat snake. She say the neighbor find excuse for her to clean the boy’s ear. I was a bit pissed hearing this because it affected Charlotte nap in the day and the whole night she was cranky and thus affected my sleep.
My maid told me that sometimes she went to hide when she heard footsteps of my neighbor coming. I told her, in future if Charlotte is sleeping when the neighbor come, just tell her that Charlotte need to sleep now, please come later. My maid says she going to close all the windows!...
Yesterday evening when I reach home, my maid told me the neighbor came again… she told my maid that I allow her to go over to “teach” her how to cook the porridge… being the lazy maid, of course she dun want to go over. She tell me that she know that time I ever say “No” … but the lazy neighbor come and ask again.
Maid: “did u ask my mdm?, because my mdm never tell me”
Neighbor: “have! She got teach me how to cook mar, u come over to show me lar”
Maid: “ I cannot work for 2 places one, later I ganna catch”
Neighbor: “ No lar, u not working for me, U teach me how to cook”…
Maid : “ I very busy one, when Charlotte sleep, I need to do housework, and if I dun finish before she wake up, I no time one”…
Neighbor: “ U very scared of your mdm ar!”
Maid : “If I do something wrong, then how… I ask my mdm first”
Neighbor: “ No need to ask your mdm one lar”
Upon hearing the whole thing, my blood shoot up… I wanted to confront my neighbor but she already went out… I told my maid, of course U must ask for permission, even my mother also have to ask for my permission if she wants to go market and the answer is NO! (because my mum have difficulty walking and we forbid her of going to the market on her own)
Then I have to “manage” my maid… I explained to her why I was angry… 1st the neighbor is too lazy already… when there is 1st time there will be second and third… My maid say “Ya loh…. That time she wants me to cut the nail, then she come again to cut the nail I know le…” Then I have to brain wash my maid, I told her, “ I dun like people to challenge!, saying things like why u scare u mdm,, challenging u to say NO! I not scare then do things she ask u to do!”… I told my maid “to teach is ok but as the mother u must learn also”. My maid say “Ya loh, she lazy dun want to learn” Then my maid remark that “She come to ask me clean the ear also never bring her own cotton bud, use Charlotte’s one some more!” I was like “ hahah… the one cotton bud is ok lar” My maid reply, she not “pai sei one”… Which is true lar, I regular bake and gave my neighbor stuffs and usually they will return with some other food as well… but this lazy neighbor always return with an empty plate.
Nick and myself discuss this issue and we suspect that the lazy neighbor has asked the maid to do things for her a lot of times until the maid also pissed… hahahah…. Because my maid is a lazy maid also… when she eng eng she watch tv with my mum… with this lazy neighbor disturbing her, she no time to eat snake of course not happy loh… hahahha…
This morning I went over to my neighbor place and told her that if she need any “ advise” on cooking porridge she can ask me directly… I dun have the habit of letting my maid get out of the house. My neighbor kind of gets the message. I also tell the neighbor that Charlotte is having cough and running nose now, so it better not to spread to the boy, “indirectly” telling her not to come over!
Back home, I told my maid, if the neighbor ask her “why u so scare of your mdm, u just reply YES! My mdm very fierce one, even ah ma (my mother) also scare of her!” Then tell the neighbor, “I need to ask permission for going out of the house”…
Hopefully this sage faster blow over… I hate it when I have to face with this kind of issue… To manage a maid is already not an easy task… with a lazy neighbor who tell tales and challenge my maid to go against me really pissed me to the max.
Then they say they cannot change the door, they can only bring back the door to do a manual pressed and hope that it will be straighten and flat...I questioned what happen if the door bend again... again they tried to push the blame to the supplier of the materials... I gave up... ask them to bring the door back...they took like a few weeks and my doors are back...
