Lately we are busy watching TV drama with the new drama channel where u pay $4+ and u can watch all the episodes.... when we are serious watching, there are a few times, Charlotte will ask me "Mummy, why u angry?".... then I reply, "I am not angry ar" then she say "u are angry..." Then I have to smile and assured her I am not angry....
Then I ask my old friends if I really do look "angry" when I am not talking... and they say "YES".... they say they have told me since our schooling days..... ok lor.... Not that I want to look like this rite... hahahhaha....
My boss ever commented that he dun believe that Charlotte is more scared of her father than me... because I am so "fierce". But the actual fact is when I have my reasoning cum scolding session with charlotte, she seldom cry or lose her temper.... when her father had these sessions with her, it usually end up in world war 3 or "cry down the great wall" kinda situation.
I concluded that man usually go straight to the point and woman usually beat around the bushes....
Example 1:
Charlotte uses the cup with a cover (those got spout) then every time she ask for the cover, we give her. One fine day she ask for water so the father bring the cup with water ... then she ask for the cover... he say NO.... she insisted.... he say DUN DRINK then she cry
He insisted not giving her the cover... she continued to cry... the father scold her say why must u use the cover, sometimes can use, sometimes dun use... u want to make me walk how many times....
I din stop both of them... after that I told nick when Charlotte is not around... I told him, all along we allowed her to have the cover, when you refuse to give her the cover, u did not explain why..... its like if i always allow u to do something and i stop u without a reason.... u will accept meh? After that he did explained to her the reason and she accepted it.... case closed.
Example 2:
One night Charlotte was doing her writing and she being lazy did not follow the dotted lines properly then when Nick saw it. He "scolded" her for untidy writing and ask her to re-write which obviously she refused and the crying start again....
What I did to savage the situation was, I sit down besides Charlotte and ask her "Every morning when I make u your brown rice milk, is it nice?".... she din answer... then I continue... if I dun make it properly... what will happen? The milk will not be nice right? Remember your daddy make it like a pan cake? (Nick ever cooked till the brown rice dried up).... Then she nodded her head.... I continue... so if I rushing then "anyhow" cook, it wont be nice right.... same thing.... if you dun write properly, your work will be very ugly and not nice.... Reason accepted.... case closed
Example 3:
This is on how I convinced her that she need to finish what she is doing and not half way done. She has this habit of saying "later" or "wait" when we ask her to do something.
I told her whenever she ask for milk, we will make it the 1st minute. If she is going to do her stuff half way, next time I am going to just put water in the bottle and ask her to wait then I will put the milk powder. Reason accepted. Case closed.
So conclusion.... when it comes to parenting... its not about looking fierce! hahhaha its about reasoning.
