From the start of my preggy, I never had an easy time with my work and my boss... She is a married woman with no kids... and many times I really ganna those kind of unfeeling remarks... I try my best not to take leave during the 1st trimester despite I am so green from my MS. There was once I really black out at the MRT but because I was already on 2 days mc so I feel bad so I struggle my way to work... She ask if I am ok. Sound like SOP question. When I told her about my black out, I am hoping to hear, "Why dun u go back and rest" But what come out of her mouth is "U can go sick bay if you are not feeling well" Woh kao!
Then when I took mc, she will msg me to ask when I will be back... at times she even ask why u not in office??? din I tell u I am on MC??? haiz... during my 2nd trimester, I chiong all the way for my work. My work place is damm KPI driven. We have target to meet for 1 year mark... so I push all my work that need to be completed by July... cos I just hope that Aug will be a "sing lang" month... So imagine squeeze all my tasks (for 1 yr) into a 6 months time, also on the basis I din want to "duan" whoever is left behind to handle my shit...
Finally come July, Aug where I have completed my schedule... BUT!!! now I know what is it like for a shit pail! When u empty it, it will be refilled!!!! There are a few new projects coming in... dun know is it she see I eng or she really see me very "Upz" with the big tummy... She throw me the tasks which dun think can be completed within 3 months... I even suggest that I can still take the role but hope that she get in another person to be in the loop for "just in case" Guess what was her respond... she say U will only go on leave in Sept/Oct rite... I guess she is those kind of ignorant female boss who think baby will come out zun zun as your gynea predict (EDD)... and the worse thing is she keep forgetting my EDD.... and keep asking!
Never mind... so I just take on and rush train to do loh... just as I was finishing what I have in hand... she suddenly see me very "Upz" again wor... something that we have been pushing since Jan, she keep delaying and I thought it wont happen liao suddenly come into her mind... Out of nowhere, she wants to rush a project (expected 6 months to complete) to start now!!!! I was like "hey within a month how much can I do???" plus Why I push all my tasks to complete before Aug is because I want a more relax Aug... It just so demoralizing... The best is when she ask me "when u going on leave huh" I say "Sept ba... such thing I cannot choose one" and she glare her eyes at me and ask me "then this project HOW???" Huh!!!! What you mean by HOW???? I feel like asking her if she just realize that my tummy grow overnight!!!! This project has been pending since Jan... and You wanna push it now, U ask me HOW??? Like become my fault that I am going on maternity soon???
I m feeling so demoralize because I feel that my effort to clear my work is not been appreciated... I could have jolly well just follow the flow and leave the undone tasks aside cos it my entitlement to go on maternity leave... But I thought it would only be responsible for me to clear my tasks so that the rest do not take on more when I am on leave... But Well Well Well.... the pail is never empty... when u try your best to clear your pail... someone will happily refilled it back... scare u have no sai to eat!!!
I think our Asian thinking and environment will never be able to promote child bearing... How can one tan han this kind of nonsense. When we go on maternity leave we are also losing out on our benefits in term of social competitiveness and work competitiveness. I am very sure my year end review will be a lousy one cos I am like 16 weeks away from work... I am also very sure they will give me a "just meet target" review cos they can always say "There are 16 weeks u are away!!!!"
Now I am so pissed and thinking since I will only be a meet target or perhaps below target why should I be so ONz to meet my 1 year KPI??? Stupid me... worse still the more work I clear, the more work come it... Stupid! Stupid! Stupid!
9 comments:
juz relax relax do until u go ML bah...heck care liao..
hmmm yes yes i agree with u. my work review will suck too cos i was away for a long time. what to expect.. you are not around you can't do things.
heck care all these.. no longer important!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
is boss jealous of your pregnancy?
in my view, ur boss has failed to be a good boss. not sure if she is jealous of ur pregnency, but definately she lack of compassion. getting things done is important, the welfare of employee is more important. because this is for long term work effeciency.
I dun think she is jealous lar... but I think she defintely lack of compassion. Maybe because its in her nature that dun know how to care for ppl and also dun understand the "xin ku" of preggy... I also din know how bad it is until I went through myself... So nowaday I feel that those woman who willing to go through this process AGAIN one is very courageous! Hahahaha :P
YES! you are very courageous!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
true true.. my boss is also a mum with 2 kids, but hor... she is the bochap type.. she is a weekend mum lor. she doesn't understand why some of us cannot cope with kids and work. cos she can mah she is weekend mum..
don't let her get in your way.. take your ml and enjoy ur time with bb..
if im u, hack care if she able to finish the projs on time lor...when u gotta go on ML den juz throw back the projs to her...she cant sack u so dun bother abt her so much...there r organisations whereby bosses keep throwin projs at preggy ladies coz wanna force them into resign...so juz do ur work at ur own pace n if she pressure u, suan her u PREGGY very xin ku & she wont b able to noe ur plight. :p
now I adopt the bo chap attitude liao... she push me futher I ki siao infront of her...hahhah... The problem is on her, cos she not only treat me like this... I consider the more heng one... she treat my other colleagues even worse... hahha... When I know she ard, sometimes I try to siam her, esp when see her mood wanna ki siao liao... some of my other colleagues dun know how to siam one will kanna very jia liat...
ur boss like my boss, just that my boss is a guy.. he's also married with no kids, thus doesn't know the difficulties that working parents are facing and yet still can give very nasty comments.. just heck care and just do whatever u can.. then when it's time for ur ML, just don't care too much and enjoy the time with ur bb.. don't be too stress out lor.. take care!!
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