My maid is the main caregiver for Charlotte... during the day time... She will be with Charlotte at my mum place. All she does is really look after Charlotte... that means most of the time she is damm eng.... I have no issue of her sit down there doing nothing when Charlotte is sleeping... but lately I am quite irritated by some of her behavior... she tend to start to take things in her own hand... and behaving really "queen"... she lie on the bed and play with Charlotte... I caught glance of her feeding/ playing her spoon with Charlotte... I cant really confirm if she has let Charlotte "taste" her spoon... When Charlotte is sleeping... she simple laze there to watch TV... I mean laze as in half seated and half lying comfortably....
Initially I really try hard to focus on the fact that as long as she take good care of Charlotte, the rest perhaps I should really close my eyes.... Having her around is good as she also act as a companion for my mum at home... The con of having a maid is that Charlotte get to be fed on time and enjoy home made fruits and it does really help esp during this time that she is starting her solid...
The bad point is, I have to endure my maid behavior... I dare not really tell her off cos worried she take it on the child... every time I talk to her is like physco her... even have to explain the reason why... and she like to ask "why" "what".... I m not so worried about the fact that Charlotte gets really close to her... I m more worried about what Charlotte will learn from her! All day long, all she does is make funny noise with Charlotte and carry her to watch TV...
Esp now that Charlotte start to be more alert I wonder how I shall deal with this... I have thoughts of sending Charlotte to half day infant care so that she still get to eat home cook stuff... I m not really into Charlotte learning anything in the care center... more of ensure that she has less contact time with the maid to pick up some funny stuff... But I m not sure if this is a good option....
I talk to friends who has maid also tell me to bear with it... I think I am being very generous towards my maid liao... I din really want to stop the maid as I think she does really can help us with housework and taking care of Charlotte. Confuse lei... maybe its a transition period...
Maybe anyone here who has maid at home to take care of kids and baby can share with you your experience?
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wah, to be ur maid quiet good leh.. only baby sitting duties?
no need do housework ah?
then when u and ur husband around what does she do?
i understand how u feel.. we have to close one eye as long as they are doing some things.
but i feel hor once they step out of the boundary u must tell them off. be nasty first then be nice later. or they will continue to test ur boundary if they know u allow them things. u don't have to worry that she ill-treat ur child cos ur mum is there with her.
u can plan a timetable for her? so that her time is more structured. when charlotte is sleeping, she can do other things like washing charlotte's clothes etc.
my maid situation is slightly different cos i hire her for my mum. she doesn't take care of my child. she helps my mum do housework only, so that my mum is free of that duty and spend her time with warren.
my mum is a stroke patient so she cant really take care of Charlotte... the maid handle bb mainly... the maid will wash bb clothes, milk bottle, prepare food and stuffs that are all related to Charlotte...I did a timetable for her b4, she will also help to iron clothes, clean the floor at my mum's place... but usually she finish all these in the early part of the morning... Then she will slack there...hahhaha
When weekend she will be at my own place with us where she will do all the hsework... that is when she dun really have much free time... I seldom on TV... I think she hate weekends... hahah... only like it when we bring her out to walk walk...
One thing to note is that she does the hsework really fast... like eg if she knows we are going out on Saturday, she will try to complete half the hsework (meant for weekends) on friday nite ... that is what I observed during CNY...
Maybe also because she is quite fast... she got a lot of slacking time at my mum place...hahhahaha
haha.... cos got to zou gang..
DUnno if its a good suggestion but what if u comment to her "wah u work very fast ah..or i giving u too little work to do thats why u finish so fast got so much time to rest ah?"
THen maybe she'll slow down a bit, then u dont worry about her slacking..?
ohh she is quite "streetsmart"...
why don't u give her more things to do???
my fren said give them more things first.. slowly take away if they are good!
Just my 2 cents worth. I feel that u have to be strict with the maid from the start, then slowly relax and not the other way around, i.e. relax then become strict. cos if u are relax then u become strict, they will be resentful. but if u are strict then u start rewarding them, they will be grateful. u have to rem that u are the employer and that u have every right to demand certain things from her. If u dun want Charlotte to use her spoon tell her off there and then. u don't have to be fierce, just say jokingly (for me i will be sarcastic) "I thought I told u not to let Charlotte eat from ur spoon?"
Also since ur mum is watching the maid and Charlotte while u are at work, i think u dun have to worry abt telling her off. ur mum would be able to observe and if ur maid is the type that takes it out on ur kid, it is better that u find out sooner rather than later. cos i know we women, sometimes somebody say something that they dun mean to, but we keep it in our hearts. so u could be avoiding all being nasty to her now, but who knows, she might take offense at something innocuous too. :)
the things is i dun really mind she slack... but i just cannot stand her "out of the box" behavior like allowing Charlotte to taste "her" spoon!!!! then let my ger wringgle there and on her tummy doing nothing while the maid watch tv... best is when she carry my gal to watch tv together... in term of her growth I feel its not too healthy...
yeah, i dont feel comfortable with this too...
this u can tell her not to do so bah..
is there any activities I can make her do ... like more educational than making Charlotte watch tv? she everyday just make funny noise... when I am at home, I will sometimes sing to charlotte or talk to her or do some flash card... but my maid cannot sing, cannot teach her words lei... just make sound....
just as I m posting the reply i saw an email from huggies...
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I was about to type what about baby educational dvd for your lil bb & maid to watch esp those with nursery songs and simple hand actions to follow eg, clapping hands, gentle body rocking side to side, tapping on parts of body... your maid can help Charlotte with it :)
haha... and learn with charlotte also...kekeke
Ya hahhaa and maybe can even brush up her english!! Scarly one day she speaks to you in American slang LOL
eh.. i got an idea... make her potty train charlotte! She can be trained about now, and potty training is quite tedious.. and if she doesnt do it well (remind charlotte to go), she'll then be busy with cleaning up the little accidents... hee..
now i got a glimpse of what kind of problems we could face with maids. I guess i will be as concerned as you too... TV wise, get those educational DVDs instead of watching normal programmes is a good idea. My nieces all watched "The wheels on the Bus" etc till grow up...better than Charlotte watching junk TV with the maid.
Hygiene wise you should say out even if suspecting only. My sister never let the maid blow the food cool at all.
Seriously hard to treat a maid right... too strict wait sacre they do funny things to get back, too lenient wait they take advantage....
I decided not to give DVDs as this will give her access to the TV... worse...hahah... now she watch tv while my mum is watching....
I teach the maid to use a mental spoon to cool off the food...
Will see how things goes.... not easy man...
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