I have heard of children who bite in school... but when we are not in it, we never take it seriously. Last time when Charlotte bite us (play play) we will tell her if u bite u will not have friends. But now she is the one gotten the bite!
She was badly bitten by her classmate yesterday. Why I say badly... because when the teacher called me yesterday noon time explaining how the issue happen, I din really take it to heart... The teacher say charlotte was touching a boy chair and the boy just bite her on the nose... she bleed a bit and she was ok... So I thought no problem... kids fight... I just ask the teacher to apply medication for her and its ok as long as she is not fussing over it... The teacher did apologies for not being able to stop in time. I totally understand that and did not make a fuss out of it. The teacher say she has also informed the boy's parents. The boy is slighter older than Charlotte and well known for being a naughty one.
Later in the evening when Nick and myself pick her up... Nick was really mad with the teacher and tell the teacher that they should take note and stuff...whereas I am quite cool about... I din want to add pressure to the teacher as I feel its beyond their control... We saw the boy's father and he did not say a single thing. I am not quite happy about it... and I was quite shocked to see how bad was the bite.
The left nose bridge has a mark and the flesh in between the nose holes is cut... the worse is the deep cut from the right nose to the lip area! Charlotte was still playing and did not cry when we asked her about the bite. When she saw my maid at the door, she was yi yi ya ya and pointing to her nose trying to complain. We teach her that she should push the boy away if he come near to bite her again... Nick even suggested for her to bite him back! He was not into this kind of education cos there was once Steven told us her brother teacher the daughter to beat back and Nick commented that its wrong education... But well... now the pain in inflicted on his own flesh, he has a different thought now.
We both posted a picture of her bruised nose on FB and the next thing we received a call from my father in law asking what happen... After explaining he was very concern and I say we have taught her how to protect herself and I told him Nick ask her to bite back... and my father in law actually remarked that if she knows how to bite back then its OK! OMG! ahahhahah...
Last evening I put some zambut for her worried that it might be bruised... I saw some watery stuff coming from the cut... This morning the water dried up and I applied more zambut for her and notice that the nose bridge is bruised already. I ask her pain? She just say "pain" I dun know how bad is the pain.
We let her go to school as normal and we saw the boy sitting there near the entrance. Nick went up and tell the boy "U cannot bite people"... The teacher is so worried that Nick will scold the boy... I just stop him and say dun remind Charlotte of the case.
I can understand that children would not be able to tell right or wrong... but as parents its our duty to teach our children. This morning I also told Charlotte that she cannot bite people... its painful when bitten so u cannot bite people. At the same time we try to teach her to defense herself by pushing the biter away and dun play with him. What I am not very pleased is, the parents of the boy did not even come and apologies or at least make the boy to acknowledge that he is at fault. How will the kid learn? We cant expect the school to do all these work given in today context where the teacher cannot punish the kid.
The school just called to inform that Charlotte is running a temperature which got me really mad... I suspect that she might got infected... Going to bring her to see the doctor tonight just to be sure. Should I claim the school or the parents of the boy for the medical fee?
Any experience how to to deal with kids who bite and how we as parents should teach our children.
Day 3....This is how bad it was at the peak of the infection.... Fever plus a red wound!....
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if doc can confirm the bite caused the fever u shld claim from them. the sch shld ban the boy if he keep on biting other kids n parents dun bother. gang up with other parents and protest...
Omg.. This boy is very jia lut. Bit on the face lei. I only hv heard of cases of biting on people hands.
yah i agree u shld try claim from the school cos the school buy insurance.. but i am not sure if cover bite, as we have the accident insurance only.
we cannot tell other parents how to teach their kids, they may even think that ur girl started it first cos she touched his things.. hence he bit her in retaliation.... there are parents who think like this!
if it really gets too much, or there is scar etc, perhaps u can ask the teacher to let u speak to the parent of the other kid???? tell them the bite has caused more problems etc...
normally i will my students to inform me or other teachers if they are being bullied, or maybe u can teach your girl to run away, not to stay close to the boy, or shout to the teacher if he comes close?
i also worry about this cos my boy is very meek leh. i scared he will get bullied too. but so far it has been very good at Playdays..
i m going to send him for teakwando class next year hahahahahhahahahahaahha for self defence
I bought her to see a doctor last evening and doctor say the bacteria and virus from a human bite is worse than scratch... The doc wanted to give antibiotic but I was not comfortable...but her fever is constantly on the high side despite burfen... It get as high as 39 degree... I agreed that it's my gal who touch his chair 1st that caused him to strike... But children should be taught not to be abusive like this! Ppl touch ur thing u dun like u can voice out...
My gal likes dog a lot, but one of my friend's dog keep licking her and she dislike it.. We taught her to say "no" " dun like"... There are instance where she snatch toy from her younger cousin and push her hand... I scold her for it and explain that when u want something mummy dun push ur hand... U do it again u will play on ur own! Children are children afterall... They need to be educated... But I believe a large part should come from the parents... If my patents never scold me... Why I bother... Teacher can nag and say until their tongue rot...
We are no longer thinking of the claim... $ is secondary... I have ask for a letter from the doc and will speak to the principal... I think the best way is to minimize my gal contact with the boy... I really dun want to see the same thing happen again... Judging by the seriousness of the bite, he is very violent!
the thing is different families have different practice when it comes to disciplining their kids.
we would certainly want the parents do something, but sometimes the parents thought that they are already doing enough or wat they do is right.
I dunno which is worse. Kids biting or parents not reacting to their kids who behave badly
sandra there are lots of such parents around, hence there are lots of such kids too
I just meet up with the principal and relate my concern... I have nothing against the school and teachers as accident is unavoidable but I strongly feel that the parents need to know how serious it can be. I gave the principal a photo of my gal bruised nose. Let the principal go and speak to the parents of the boy.
i check my colleague who has some experience about this.
she said the degree of the bite will determine if the school is negligent.
if the bite mark is quite deep, like your case, it would suggest that the teacher only found out much later, and she didn't stop the boy immediately.
so can ask wat will the school do to prevent this from happening again.
I think teacher cannot keep an eye on so many of them at the sane time... And actually their student teacher ratio is quite good already... The principal did explain that usually if they know there is a problematic kid, they will shadow the kid to avoid the kid bullying other kid.
I think there is nothing I can do except hope that no repeat case... The main concern now is for her fever to go off... The doc say fever caused by infection may last a few days.
My boy also kanna bite 2 times by the same person. Tat boy bite my boy face I already find it weird cos normally they bite on hand. Who knows urs even more kua zhang than mine... nose???
what's with the boy's parents.... never even apologize. they should compensate medical fees because their son did this. parents are responsible for their child's doing.
i told my son, if ppl bully him, tell them to stop it. if they continue, just do the same. i really think that only then, the other kid know how it feels.....
anyway, hope your daughter will get well soon....
Thanks ppl! She is much better already... The fever lasted about 3 days before the the antiobiotic took effect.. But the wound haven heal... Can imagine how bad is the bite! Now the immunity is low, she caugh the cough bug.. Haiz....
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