Spend the morning cleaning my document and file it properly...weird that I only do the "spring cleaning" in office after CNY. Hahhah... perhaps before that was too busy clearing stuff, and now back to office but still in the CNY mood. This year is a bit quite as compared to the past. Cos I am in a new team where not much "tradition" is followed nor created. Nonetheless, will have "loh hei" and gathering with my ex team mate tomorrow.
CNY happen early this year and everything is like fast forward. Given that this is the dragon year, unavoidably will have to answer qn like are u going for a dragon baby. Even the govt is hoping to have baby boom this year! But all I can comment is, you are not the one facing the problem, its easy for you to comment.
No doubt kids are precious and the joy is also beyond description. But it come with a price as well. The first few years are the toughest if you ask me. Now with a toddler, I do feel life is easier as compare to taking care of an infant. And best of all, I have come to a conclusion that I really cannot tan han maid. I think no one can tell me they really have a super good maid, if they do, its either they simply bo chap or they are trying to maintain a good image.
I think the problem of taking care of the young one will never get resolved. Given that there are many options like infant care, maid, nanny, grandparents (which is out for me), I still cannot figure out the best solution. Having 1 toddler in CC which means we have to be on standby to take urgent leave if she fall sick, I dun think I can manage with 2 kids who require me to be on standby. Nanny is really unless u are super lucky to get a good one. But cant promise that the nanny to follow strictly to your method. Having the experience of a maid to take care of an infant, I would still think maid is better than infant care. But the problems that you have to face as a package from the maid, I really really dun like the idea at all. Talking about maid, CNY season when you see a maid, naturally you will give "ang bao"... but this year, I see many incident that change my mind about giving "ang bao" to the maid. First it at a cousin in law place where he immediately took the "ang bao" from the maid to check the amount inside... I dun think its very nice to behave like "its a damm serious thing", next its at my grandmother house which my auntie complain that my mother gave the ang bao to the maid and she dun know how much. She ask me to check with my mum.
As much as I also wish to treat maid like a normal human, but as an ex employer of maid, I totally understand the kind of trauma and stressed an employer feel. My friend just told me about sacking her maid soon... hahahha Trust me, the minute she board the plane and go... its an unspeakable relief on your stress. Cos one hand u want to be Mrs Nice, on the other hand U feel like slapping her... everyday you are living in split personality. My ex maid still sms me from time to time. Does it mean I am a super good employer that she couldn't get go... but sorry, Mdm is every stressed when you are here with me, though I must also credit her as sometimes she really is an asset. But Mdm really cannot manage the stress that comes with this asset.
The good thing of having a maid at home with kids, you can always run errand without lagging your screaming kids and constant looking at home to ensure their meal time is well taken care of. Sometimes I read on FB on some posting of how "wei da" a mother is....... forgo long session of saloon for ponytail. Short bath session instead of enjoying your bath. I have to add on, forgo long "cake making" session for quick one, forgo frequent drinking and hanging out session with your friends to be back home to spend time with the young ones.
Its all part of parcel of parenthood. I guess one have to be really really ready to forgo some comfort and convenience in life to take care of the next generation. And this applies to both party.... the term parents is there for a reason.
Was at a work plan seminar last Friday, where a panel discussion consists of the board members (mostly bosses of big organization), their parting words is what would u advise the officer; one of it make me think hard. He said, work is work, the value lies in what you are doing, hopefully is for the better of the future generations.
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It is really not easy to do it all over again!!
Totally understand ur concern, more difficult if u dun have someone to look after ur baby
So coincidentally, Just read an article, in Malaysia 2 children die after feeding in cc and they talk abt choking after feeding even under the care of nanny. (http://sg.theasianparent.com/category/what_the/)
The maid ang pow thing actually can do it in one shot, like calculate a total instead of opening up one by one or ask around. My maid is a rich woman after cny! Haha..
I also dread the possibility of having to hire a maid in future if I'm going to have another kid....
The article just reminded me to remember to tell the cc teachers xiaoxuan will tend to gobble down her food! Now I'm getting paranoid....she is starting school this week...panic attack for the mom!
Haha! Last time I normally let the maid keep her own Ang pao then end of the day she just hand to me. But I know she will go toilet to count. Which cc is xx going?
Xiaoxuan is attending Schoolhouse by The Bay, under The Learning Ladder's umbrella. Only started 3 days... first day was perfect., happily exploring and curious about the activities and new things,only cried at the end when she finally realised i'm not there haha...then 2nd day was a crying marathon...nightmare! So traumatised for both of us as I was watching her all the while from the observation room. Then third day which is today, i kept her accompany for a half an hour then just hardened my heart and left.No point staying there to watch her cry mah... According to teachers, she cried less abit today... Getting our kids to go to school is such a traumatising thing...
Haha! Best is dun see. Cos u will feel very sad and question urself why make her go through this. But when they stabilize, u will be glad u make the right choice. Now Charlotte will sometimes tell me what happen in school, like which boy is crying. Haha!
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