Recently Charlotte has this "bad" habbit of crying and screaming before bedtime... sat was the start of the whole entire episode... from noon, she refuse to take her nap and scream her lung out... finally got her to nap.. for less than 30 min she wake up...
We decided to go out to Nick's classmate's housewarming. She poo poo on the way there and keep "herm.. herm..." telling us she need a change... We concluded that she might be feeling wanna poo poo that's why she wake up from the nap. She is happy and ok after changing... But she is quite cranky at the friend place... we concluded that it a new environment... that's why...
Then back home... the whole screaming episode started when we wanna make her sleep... she is practically screaming and shreking... dun know wat to do with her... keep yelling for 1 good hour and we manage to make her sleep...
Sunday noon, again,.. screaming during nap time... morning nap was fine... but noon nap is terrible... then my in law come and play with her, that nite... again screaming during bedtime and we think it might be due to lack of sleep... She scream 1 hour, refuse to be carried... just keep screaming till my maid manage to calm her down in her sarong... then about 1 hour later, she yelled and scream from her sleep, like having nightmare. I carried her out from her cot and she keep on yelling till wanna puke. Then she stop and after comforting a while, she manage to sleep... throughout the night she wake up several times and end up we have to put her inbetween us to sleep.
I start to read and google for the cause of such behaviour... initally I found a lot of stuff related to teething and colic ... Her teeth still not appearing and I also suspect its colic... ytd feed her grip water and nite time gave her the colic drop... but it din work... last evening was another screaming to bed episode...
I start to read more and saw this "separation anxiety" term. This is the 1st time I am hearing this term... in olden days, ppl will call it "child start to recognise ppl" but according some of the stuff I found online... it mean the child get upset when the caregiver walk away... I realise some of the very similar behaviour... when charlotte wake up from her nap, she will search for my maid and start to cry if she cannot find her... then during bed time, though she has already sleep, but she will on and off open her eyes to peep... cant really rest...
Cham... how to tackle this huh... I read some website they say its normal for infant to experience it... normally from 8th month to 2 years old. Recently charlotte do not need to be nursed in the middle of the night so we just gave her water. I did a online quiz from johnson and johnson sleep stuff... and realise that its quite normal for infant to wake up a few time in the middle of the night and most of the parents give water too... but that is ang mo site... so not sure if its commonly practice in a more chinese society like here.
Any advise how to cope with "separation anxiety"??? I tried to enforce a bedtime routine.. like singing and let her cool down before bedtime.... but the minute she knows she need to sleep... she will start her screaming engine...
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the period b4 the tooth emerges is the worse... cos they are so uncomfy cos the gums are so sensitive and tender, and worse for parents cos they dont see a tooth emerging and they dont know whats going on!!
so to me i think its teething.. separation anxiety doesnt make her wake up from middle of sleep what.. but discomfort (sore gums) will..
then how huh... anyway to help the sore gums? I have some teething gel... but the pd say it wont help until the stage we see the white thing emerging...
Let her cry it out since nothing u do makes her happy.. that's wat i did. i left mine to cry.. but do periodic checks on him. cried for 30 mins the first night and nv cried again. :) i think when u try to hold her and cuddle her, it reinforces her thinking that behaving like that is ok and that Mummy will reward me with cuddles. U can read up Dr Sears or Ferber method. both methods are opp of each other. :) I used Ferber. There's also a book call No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley. :)
I tried to let her cry and cry till she vomit...faint... end up clearing the mess... :(
but after vomiting out... she cry a while more then sleep...
like jacelau, i didnt do anythin... i just let shayna fuss it out lor, and she was always chewing on her teether anyway... and tried to distract her..
My eldest son have the same problem but only when he was place in the full-time childcare. Before he goes to bed, he'll cry non-stop till he sleep and while he was sleeping the crying continues... This problem lasted about 1 month and everything went back to normal. Just let your baby cry and after awhile he'll stop on its own. Try not to give your child too much attention and leave him aside but of course need to check on him.
hmmm maybe it's teething??? u can try the teething gel.. or some books said let them suck on frozen fruits?
for separation anxiety.... warren has it and will sometimes only want me to carry.. he will cry and cry when i pass him to my husband.. i think it's normal bah... some children are more sociable.. so they are ok.. some kids are not...
nevermind.. this phase will pass!!
my girl once in a while also will behave like that. I suspect sometimes are due to stomach upset. So I apply ruyi oil on her tummy. after she fart will be better. You can attempt this to see if it helps.
hi maochong! long time no hear from u...kekeke.. how are you doing?
jace, u use the cry it out method? hahhaha... i was reading on some of the information on cry it out and no cry method... I have tried both but dun really work... either I din understand wat was taught or I din exactly follow the method...hahha... I think No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley seems like a good book base on the review online... might try to see if I can grab one in the store.
hi puroland, I've been busy trying to adjust to my new role as a full-time stay home mum ;P
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